In Fond Memory of Will, from Kelly Penfold
(nee Nunn)
Sadly, I was one of those university friends of Will's who lost touch with him after graduation. And unfortunately, my memory is not the best and kind of fuzzy about a lot of things in my past, including a lot of specifics from even university. However, I'll never forget Will. How did we meet? I haven't the foggiest, but it was because of SOCS and was therefore either in the lounge or at a pub night.
I'll never forget his smile or the kind words he always seemed to have for his friends. I was a frequent donator in the "Feed the Will" campaign -- he'd come without any lunch and so we'd all toss bits and pieces from our own lunch in his direction, hollering at the top of our lungs, "FEED THE WILL!" He used to have me laughing so hard that I couldn't breath as he'd hang off of the SOCS lounge bars and act like a maniac, hollering and making faces. I don't think I've laughed that hard since.
The thing I always loved about him was his ability to be wild and crazy and yet so genuine and sincere. I always felt comfortable around him and that if I were ever in trouble, he'd help me out. In fact, there was a night in the Downstairs John where I inadvertently danced back into the middle of a brawl. Two guys from another university were hurling insults and threats. Then, as I found myself suddenly between two very angry and drunk guys, I saw a beer bottle being raised. Time seemed to stop even as I heard a blood-curtling scream -- and that's when I realized I was the one screaming.
I saw the bottle coming down -- and then hands grabbed me and yanked me out of there. A group of the SOCS guys had come to my rescue! They tossed me up against a wall and shielded me bodily while these two guys went at it. Punches were thrown and my saviours took a few shots on my behalf to make sure I didn't get hurt.
One of those brave fellows was Will.
Much love, Will. I'll never forget you.
Thoughts and sympathies go out to his wife, family, colleagues and friends. He was one in a million.
Sincerely,
Kelly
Memories of Will
I met Will many years ago at McMaster in SOCS. In getting to know him, you could see he was a good-natured guy who possessed a lot of integrity. Some of my memories of Will also include him relating the raccoon incident that Digger mentioned.
I remember the frosh who bought him at the slave auction one year, dressing him up as a fairy princess. You could see he wasn't exactly in his comfort zone dressed like that, but he was being a good sport about it. Then someone suggested Will should be taken to the library so he could tell the people there he was the "book fairy". To his credit, he put on quite a performance, handing out books to people while saying, "Hi, I'm the book fairy and I just loooove books!"
The last time I saw Will was at Elaine Stevens' wedding. We spoke a little at the reception and he told me about some of his experiences as an RCMP Officer. I had to admire his savvy when he told me about an incident where several officers had to break up a brawl. He was approaching a very agitated man wielding a brick who wanted to fight Will. Will convinced the man to put down the brick and he would put away his baton. Once the man agreed and put down the brick, Will subdued him with pepper spray, adding, "You fool. I don't get paid to fight you."
A couple of summers ago, I managed to make it to the afternoon portion of the SOCS reunion, held at the Gown and Gavel. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to stay for the evening portion due to a prior commitment. I regret missing that, as I missed the opportunity to see a lot of old SOCS members including Will. I can't imagine the grief Sarah and the rest of Will's family are going through. I just want them to know my thoughts are with them.
Chris Carefoot
From Michael Halas
I would like to pass my deepest condolences to Sarah and Will's family. I met Will at McMaster as a member of SOCS, and I will never forget his zest for life, enormous smile, and loyality to his friends. I was part of the executive that made him a SOCS rep and I can tell you that this small thing was just like everything that Will went out to do - his dedication, personality, and awesome enthusiasm allowed him to achieve anything he wanted to. I am deeply saddened that after I left McMaster, I lost touch with Will and Sarah, and didn't get to continue the friendship we had built there, but I see from the notes posted here that Will continued to be the great person that I will always remember. I hope you please know that Will had an enormous impact on all those around him, and even after 10 years, I still consider him one of the best people I knew at McMaster. I will always remember the times that we shared there.
A note to Will, by Lynda Stoller
TO WILL:
I never knew you like the back of my hand. I thought I would have a life time to do that!
I knew Sarah like the back of my hand. I could, and still can, tell by the first words she speaks, if it is a good hello, a sad hello, an I'm not feeling well hello, or I need something from you hello.
I was only half way into figuring out your hellos. I know that I recognized the "I'm watching television "hello's". Especially if you were watching sports! It was the quickest "hello" in the world. "Hi Lynda, Sarah's not here or do you want to talk to Sarah"?
We did get to have good conversations, you and I, but not nearly enough!
I thought I would have a life time to have philosophical discussions with you, discussions about child rearing; discussions about old age - lots of discussions that would eventually let me know you like the back of my hand.
This is what I do know. You changed Sarah's life! You loved her so much that when she looked into your eyes she saw a strong, passionate, independent woman who could do whatever she set her mind to do. And she did. She went back to school, and with your support, she excelled. She was on the Dean's List. She excelled at her job. She was loved by the most difficult teenagers. And when you got sick again, she gave her all to taking care of you. I never got to know you like the back of my hand but you will always be in the back of my mind. And every time I hear Sarah's voice, or see her face. I hear yours as well. The two of you were able to make the best of the worst situation. The way you viewed the world helped me to be more positive in my own world.. I learned from you, I respected you, I marveled at your positive outlook and bravery, BUT, I still didn't know you like the back of my hand.
I got to know you best through Sarah's eyes. How much pain you were in; how brave you were; how worried and scared you were; how much you continued to protect Sarah and how she still came first (as far as you were concerned) even when you were so sick you couldn't speak! Who does that? You did!
I love you for that Will. I love you for loving my daughter above and beyond!
And even though I never got to know you like the back of my hand, I know enough to know that you and Sarah had more compassion and love for each other in your short time together that most people have in a life time!
May you rest peacefully and know that I, we, and all that know Sarah, will take care of her for the rest of her life!
Personal memories of Will from his cousin
I am Will's cousin Gail.
There are absolutely no words that can even try to compensate for the void
that Will's absence has left in so many of his family, friends, and
co-workers.
From the 3 siblings - Uncle Raymond, Aunt Fay, and Aunt Carol - the order of
the cousins (in chronological order) is as follows: Wayne, Will, Gail, Ray,
Mickey, Renee, Peta, and Nakeisha. As you can see, Will was not the oldest
in this group, however, at the Christmas dinner for the past couple of
years, Will was always the one, who by seemly unconscious selection, was the
one to control the boisterous melee created by so many individuals talking
and passionately debating many topics from sports to music to politics.
Trust me - it was amazing how Will would tune down the noisy melee of
cousins, boyfriends, girlfriends, and spouses with a "now guys......"
I recently read something that made me think of Will and smile.
Remember him who we loved
In the rising of the sun and in its going down
In the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winter
In the opening of buds at spring
In the warmth of summer
In the rustling of leaves and the beauty of autumn
In the beginning of the year and when it ends
When we are weary and in need of strength
When we are lost and sick at heart
When we have joys we yearn to share
So long as we live, he too shall live, for he is a part of us.
How long will it be?
How long will it be
Before a night drive home
Along a familiar route
And some song on the radio
No longer provokes
A smiling reminiscence of you
How long will it be?
Will there always be times
Watching hockey on TV
When I'll want to turn
To share with you
Talk of that player
Or a fantastic goal
How long will it be?
When I need advice
And might recall
That Will's been there
Or Will's done that
And I'll want your thoughts
Or to hear your best guess
How long will it be?
Should I breakfast at our favourite spot
A thousand times before the memories stop
For that favoured place
You'd come a long way
With Sarah and friends
To share a lazy day
How long will it be?
At Hallowe'en
Shall I always remember
Legendary efforts
From Sarah and Will's
Never lacking imagination
And will I always wonder
What would he be?
Be it a time or a place
Or a Mountie's Red Serge
Summertime camping
With flank steak on the grill
The causes are legion
Reflecting, reminiscing
And I ask how long will it be?
Forever my friend
Is the way it will be
By Stuart
To the Murray Family
It was with great sadness that I received the notice of Will's passing. As a teacher I see so many faces and names that there are times when recognition becomes a blur. But I certainly remembered Will—as a warm, caring young man with a great capacity for love. He smiled often, projecting a demeanor that was warm and accepting. Please know that I take great pleasure in having had Will as part of my English classes. That he continued life with such dignity and humanity is even more humbling. May God bless and keep you all in His thoughts.
Mrs. JoAnne Black
English Teacher
Assumption Secondary School
From Tommy Ao
To all of Will's family and friends, I express my deepest sympathies for the loss of such an extraordinary man. After reading what others have written about Will and what I know about him, it is plain to see that he is a outstanding individual in everyway: son, brother, husband, colleague, and friend.
I met Will and Sarah a few years ago when I was studying in Vancouver. Right away, I was struck by how joyful, lively and warm Will was towards everyone, myself included. I now look back and feel blessed to have been able to share time, laughter and experiences with him. From enjoying the great West coast outdoors to talking and partying into the late night to having relaxing Sunday brunches, I'll cherish all of those memories.
I hope Sarah, Will's family and friends find comfort from all that know and love him. I'll miss you Will.
Tom
From Angelo
To the family,
Mama especially. I only got to know you both at the hospital, as I was at my father's bedside, and I fell in love with you guys there. I just heard and wanted to send my condolences to you. Hope to see you for a spa day soon, as we spoke about.You deserve it! Would love to hear from you.
Love your friend,
Angelo
From Adam Szelei
My deepest condolences go out to Sarah, the Murray family and friends. Words can not express the sorrow we all feel for the loss of such a great person.
There are many stories that can be told, many good things to say about Will and his character but one that stands out is Will's ability to make you feel at home and at ease. A couple examples of this: I attended a party at Rob and Hill's place in TO. I heard that Will would be there and I knew he had serious cancer at the time, but I was none the less excited to see him. I meet him on the patio and for once in my life..I have no idea what to say, so what comes out is "Good to ah....see ya Will...... so ah Will......how ah....are ya do'in...." . Will looks at me with "that" grin, places his hand on my shoulder and replies " Adam....it ok...just say to me....hey Will how's the cancer!" Will and Rob break into laughter. I did feel much more relaxed and at ease.
Rob and I fly out to visit Will and Sarah in 2006. Been awhile since I saw Will and updates didn't sound so good but we knew it would help him to see us two clowns. Even though Will was limited in his actions, it didn't take long at all for Will to make Rob and I feel comfortable. Even though Will's condition was very serious, he was still concerned about how we were.
Will, I miss your sense of humour, honesty, loyalty, smile, kindness, your voice of reason, generosity and your laughter but most of all...I will miss your friendship.
Adam
From Tracy Segal
Will touched us all with his amazing spirit and infectious smile and our lives are both richer and fuller from knowing him and yet emptier from the hole he leaves in his passing.
I met Will during our first year at McMaster. I have many fond memories of our time there and the fun we had together as frosh reps, going camping, playing games, and just hanging out. After Mac I didn't get to see him as often but I was always so very happy when I did. Will was a great friend, someone you could always count on, no matter what.
It is so very rare to meet such an incredible human being. He is a great role model and the kind of person that I strive to be.
My deepest condolences to Sarah, Will's family and all who loved Will. We are all lucky to have known and loved him. He will be terribly missed.
From Anna Neale
Trying to find the right words to describe how I feel is next to impossible. I love Will very much and will miss his spirit and his love. He was an amazing friend and I will share a story that shows just how wonderful and caring he was. Will and Sarah came to visit us in Arizona in 2003 and shortly there after he was diagnosed with cancer the first time. Several months after that I was having, what at the time seemed like a major life problem. Through friends of ours back in Ontario, Will caught wind of what was happening and called me. He called to see how I was doing and was concerned about my well being. His concern was for me, this guy who was fighting cancer wanted to make sure that I was okay. We had the most amazing conversation about life and I have never forgotten the selflessness that he showed to me. It is hard to believe that almost exactly a year ago Will was at my house in Hamilton for a New Years Eve party. What a difference a year makes. I love you Will.
"Don't look so serious" from Nikki
Will, you are a beautiful person.
Even when you were sick you looked handsome.
Even when you were in pain you gave us love
When we lost our baby earlier in the year you gave us sympathy and felt our pain
- how I wish I could have eased yours
When we told you a few weeks back that I was pregnant again you were so unbelievably happy for us
- What I wouldn't give to make you happy for longer.
You used to say to me "Nik, don't look so serious"
I'm trying not to Will.
I stare at your picture and see you smiling
I stare at your family and see you smiling
I stare at Sarah and see you smiling
How can I look serious amongst all that smiling?
Will, you are a beautiful person
I'm going to miss you buddy.
"Please Sir, can I have some more?"
(Oliver Twist, Dickens)
For Willem, from Paul 'Norm' Duxbury
The greatest mystery lay
At the end of days
Beyond the struggle
And windings of the maze
Words found wanting
And wanting more still
Words remembered
And the memories fill
The clock runs slow
And though time cannot cease
It has obliged
To grant the man peace
So it will be that by
The grace of whomever
The ties that bind
Be ties that won't sever
The grievances tear
At the fabric of grace
But the man remains
Every inch of his face
The clock runs slow
And though time cannot cease
It has obliged
To grant the man peace
Family and friends
Declare with their grief
A declaration of love
And undying belief
That Willem may smile
In spite of it all
For he has solved
The greatest mystery of all.
December 24, 2006.
Paul 'Norm' Duxbury.
From Robert Miles & Hilary Mattar
To all Will's much loved friend's and family my deepest sympathy.
In all the years I had the pleasure of knowing Will, I was inspired most by his fantastic attitude and outlook on life. What I will take from Will's life is a desire to be better in everything I do. I'm sure that's just what he would want.
The world has lost a true and loyal friend, a patriotic Canadian, a beloved
son and husband and a great man.
He will be dearly missed.
From Denise
Dear Will and Sarah. I left for work this morning just as the sun was coming up. Black, bare tree branches standing out in front of a sky painted with impossibly brilliant, frothy bands of pink and grey. One of the most beautiful sunrises I�ve ever seen. Freezing cold, crunchy frost on the ground. The cold makes it harder to breathe and is uncomfortable - which has been a welcome factor these past few days. Everything was turning up rosy and grey, and I came unstitched. We were great friends � all of us. I have memories of cooking, eating, laughing, snowboarding, dining in restaurants way too expensive for our budgets, hanging out at the beach. The Thanksgiving orphans club. I know that when I see beauty in nature, like this day's sunrise, I will think of you Will. I�ll remember our fun times � I have years of memories to pull from. I have a photo, taken at Kits beach, a couple of summers ago. I prepared a big picnic � Brian made the fried chicken himself � and we dined like kings. You are sitting, talking with Brian, the light is behind your head, that late evening, golden, west coast kind of light. It�s a nice picture, because you and Brian are relaxed, happy, probably discussing your latest football trades, politics. Sarah and I probably discussing recipes, me trying to steal another West family recipe for babka or matzo balls. Two bald eagles had perched in the tree right above our picnic table � it was a perfect day. We�ll continue to love and support Sarah, and take care of her as best we can. We�ll nurture each other through this incomprehensible pain and sorrow we feel. We�ll try to keep in touch with all the people we met through you both. We�ll try to explain to Sam, when he sees that great picture of you and Sarah holding him, what a hero is really like to know in person. Lucky me.
From Brian Patrick
Denise and I met Will more or less by accident. A colleague of hers, in town for business, suggested we go out for drinks, then called his cousin Sarah and her husband Will and asked them to join us. The colleague went back to Toronto a day or so later, but by then we were hooked on Will and Sarah. I'm still struck by how easily we formed a friendship, but I shouldn't be. Look at any group picture Will's in and you'll see an eclectic, diverse group. Will seemed naturally to take people into his life, an once in he and Sarah found ways of keeping them there. And so then it began, dinners, concerts, snowboarding, beach picnics, and on and on. After most occasions it felt like our circle of friends had widened. One of the gifts that comes from knowing Will and Sarah is getting to meet their friends.
When he was in the hospital my visits took on a kind of routine, he'd update me on his progress, how many more chemo treatments he had, then it was on to sports or the news. We never dwelt on his disease while I was there. He wanted to know about Denise's new job, about our son Sam and how he was doing. You came away feeling that our lives meant something to him. I never heard him voice any despair, only determination to leave the hospital. In the too short a time I knew Will he lived his life and fought his cancer with both courage and dignity.
To Sarah and the Murray family, I'm sure by now you know how Denise and feel about Will. He touched our lives. Our hearts go out to all of you.
Condolences to Ellen, Ray Sr., Sarah & all extended family
These few words cannot express the deep sorrow we feel on the passing of Will after such a long battle he had to endure. You, the family were a pillar of strength for him, as well as his many friends dear to him. We only met Will a few times, but, he could light up a room. His spirit will always live on.
Eileen & Mitty Issinoff, Stoney Creek, ON.
Condolences to Ray Murray Sr. and family
I never knew Will, but after reading the eulogy and the kind condolences from family and friends, I can see what an inspiring and special person he was. I worked for and currently work with Ray Murray Sr, an exceptional person with a positive attitude no matter what the circumstances, it is no wonder he had such a wonderful son. I offer all off you my deepest, most heartfelt condolences. Time heals the heart, somewhat, but the love and the memories will never fade. I know you will cherish them. I am truly sorry for your loss.
Sincerely,
Laurie Zuccaro
From Bryan Forrest
My deepest condolences to the Murrays, Sarah, and her family.
I would like to share some of my fondest memories of Will, and some of the traits that he demonstrated.
Creativity: Writing the words to PCU in the SOCS office with Will, Digger, and Anna. Being sober was never so much fun.
Fear (instilling): We were playing pool at the Crobar and I had an impossible shot on the 8 ball. Will says "you can't make it, so just set me up for the next shot. Whatever you do, do NOT scratch." I double kiss the cue ball and scratch in the corner pocket. Will looks at me like I just insulted his mother. After a full three seconds that felt like a year, he turns it 180 degrees and says "Well, lets drink!" while flashing that 'all is good with the world' smile of his.
Powerful: While on a Spring Break trip to Daytona Beach, I woke up in the middle of the night becase the bus was shaking. Was it something in the road? An earthquake? No, it was Will snoring. I swear it was so loud he shook the bus. When Will does something, he does it full throttle.
Bravery: Introduced me to sushi when I moved to the coast. Will, you're eating RAW FISH!!!
Confidence: Will, Sarah and I are in Gastown in Vancouver and see a couple of guys ready to fight in the street. Will calmly walks up to them, flashes the badge and says "OK guys, that's it". The two guys, who were as big or bigger than Will, quickly dropped their hands and walked in separate directions.
Generosity: Always had an extra beer, a place to crash, a dinner table to share, and good things to say about everyone.
Bliss: I've NEVER seen two happier people in my entire life, than Will and Sarah at their wedding. They set an example that day that made everyone envious.
Will: everyone who has had the priviledge of knowing you will miss you. The world is a lesser place without you.
"Sociable" buddy.
Bryan
From Terry Faulkner
On this day of Will's funeral, I am having to explain to my children why I am so sad. "Because, a friend has died." I had recently sent a message to Will and was told that Sarah had read it to him in hospital. His response, positive as always, gave me hope that he would see the back of this and be with us for a long time.
I knew you in Depot, when you were the best drummer the RCMP ever had on the parade square. In Burnaby, we went to the same team and worked together. We hiked and you made fun of how us BC'ers had a skewed sense of hill versus mountain. That thought always will make me laugh. We saw some concerts and hung out together. I met your lovely Sarah. Then we got busy with life and moved on.
And today, my child asks me why I am sad. I say it is because my friend Will made a promise that we would get together soon. But now he must break that promise, he has somewhere else he has to go. It is a difficult lesson I must learn and then teach to a seven year old.
Good bye to you Will and thank you for the time you gave me. I hope that you can find further peace.
My deepest condolences to those who knew you best and will miss you most.
Terry
From Harold Wax and Veann Leps (Toronto)
It is with great sadness that I heard of Will's passing. I first met Will as a Frosh while attending McMaster. Will was the most memorable Frosh Rep of 1994 and it is because of him that I became a Frosh Rep in 1995.
We both worked together at Crobar and one of my fondest memories of Will was when he was hypnotized by Tony Lee at my backyard pool party in Ancaster...Will running around in this straight-laced part of town in the middle of the day screaming at the top of his lungs "I'm in the KKK". To say that my neighbours were shocked when they looked over the fence and saw that it was Will who was doing the screaming is an understatement. Will could always make me laugh and he was always there to back me up in a fight. Those university days will be missed.
I remember when Will told me he had made the decision to apply to the RCMP. I was an Auxiliary Constable with the Ontario Provincial Police (OPP) at the time and I remember sitting in the SOCS lounge at MAC helping Will prepare for his aptitude testing. Although I did my best to talk Will out of joining the Redcoats (I thought he would make a better O-Dot), he went through with the testing and was accepted with open arms into the ranks of the RCMP. Will sent me a letter, a photo and an RCMP patch while he was attending Depot...that patch still hangs in my collection of police patches that I have received from my brother and sister officers over my years of investigative travel...although now it is my most prized one!
When Will graduated Depot, he returned to Hamilton and the two of us agreed to hook up for a beer (I think it was more to brag about his new tin that he carried in his wallet!) We had a few drinks, shared a few stories and then somehow ended up back at old Crobar where the two of us used our badges to bypass the line-up and reminisce about the good ol'days (I think the statute of limitations has passed on that little deviation from force protocol). I surprised Will that day with a little graduation gift, I gave him my metal OPP hat badge (Back in the day when we still wore a forage cap) and told him to take it back to B.C. and proudly display it to all his RCMP buddies to remind them that there is another police force in Canada other than the RCMP...but I will admit that the Ponies look better in a stetson! Your episodes of "To Serve and Protect" will always remain my favourite!
Will, from all your friends in the OPP...you will be missed, you will be remembered, you will be praised. You were an inspiration to us all with your open displays of honour, integrity, compassion and strength.
God speed brother!
Sarah, my heartfelt condolences on your loss. I remember when you and Will first started dating, the images of the two of you together will be how I always remember you and Will...young, happy, healthy and in love. Thank you so much for being there and loving Will as much as you did. You are an angel.
Will and Sarah, you are both in our thoughts and prayers.
Harold & Veann
From David and Val Berry
David and would like to send our deepest sympathies to Will's family .Sarah, We know how much you will miss your beloved husband. We first met Will when he came to see us about owning a Portuguese Water Dog. It was love at first sight. The dogs loved Will And I told my husband that this couple would Be a great home as Boston's mom jumped right on him. Thank You Both.
Will , God Bless you and have a safe journey. We are thinking of you and praying for Sarah.
Many Thanks to Dave and Sheila for keeping us up to date from the beginning.
Lot of Love David and Val Berry
From Wayne
Will's dad is my mom's brother, therefore Will and I are cousins. I use the pronoun "are" in the present tense because Will lives on forever in spirit and character. He will always be alive in our hearts, as we celebrate his superb charisma, wit and intelligence.
I first met Will as a kid in 1983, since I was living in Jamaica at the time and I came to Canada that year to enjoy my summer vacation. He was 9 and I was 11. We immediately bonded as we were both the oldest children in our respective families. He has 2 younger brothers and I have 2 younger sisters. At his early age, he demonstrated remarkable leadership skills with his siblings and I admired his sense of responsibility and ownership. I can never forget his curly orange looking hair , that he had growing up. He and I had the fortune of possessing the famous "Murray" forehead.
My wife and I had the pleasure of spending a weekend with Will and Sarah, November 2005. This was my first (and only time so far) in BC, and I will never be able to think of that beautiful province again without thinking of the intimate tour that he gave us in Vancouver and Victoria. And I will always cherish the memory of that weekend, as Will and I indulged in some deep political discussions. It seemed that the weekend was just not enough time to cover all the topics we wanted.
I know he is smiling at us all right now, as he entertains the angels with his impeccable communication and delivery. Shine on cousin .
Wayne
From Luke
I first met Will when I was posted to Burnaby Detachment and was immediately impressed by what a positive attitude he had. Will always seemed happy to be at work, and kept a huge smile on his face no matter what situation or person he encountered. Will had an amazing way with people. As a member, he was the kind of person you tried to emulate. If everyone had the happy approachable attitude that Will had and brought to work everyday, the world would be a much friendlier place! Its not fair that things like this happen to people like Will, but perhaps they are bound for bigger and better things.
From myself, my family, and the Burnaby Dog Service, our thoughts and prayers are with you Will and your family.
From Matt
Will was a guy that was truly larger than life. He was a unique man whose presence you felt the moment he walked in a room. Whether it was his smile, his laugh or a huge bear hug, you knew Will had arrived. One of the many things I will remember about Will is his skill of telling stories. Man, could that guy tell a story like no one I know. I would sit and listen to him waiting on every word he said for fear of missing any part of it. I must admit, I've asked him to tell the same story on more than one occasion not because I can't remember the ending but because I wanted to hear him tell it again. And each time, it was like hearing the story for the first time.
Will's parents should be proud of the boy they raised into a man. Will was a man of wisdom beyond his years and yet, had the curiosity and spirit of a young boy discovering something for the first time in his life. Will was a guy who lived for the future never dwelling on the past. He was a man of integrity, honesty and compassion. He was a man that stood true to his word and was always there for a friend whether to talk about sports, work, relationships, or whatever was the political view of the day. He knew something about everything and wasn't afraid to tell you yet always respected your opinion if it differed from his although by the end of the conversation, he always had me convinced of his point of view!!!
Golfing with Will was always an experience - you never knew when to take cover!!! But, when he did hit that amazing shot, he'd be happy the rest of the day and of course, you'd hear about. He would walk along with his duck-like strut and swagger up the entire fairway with that smile on his face that he had just beat the course. The best part about the day was sitting at the 19th hole and reminiscing about our shots and how good we were filling our heads with tall tales of our Tiger Woods-like prowess. The tales of course would get taller the more the pints went down.
Visiting Will and Sarah's home, you saw and felt the love, warmth and kindness they had for eachother and their family and friends. When at their house you knew you were "home". They would have Thanksgiving dinner for all of the "orphans" who had family far away. For me, my family was in town, but I always tried to make sure I scheduled my own family dinners on a different night because I knew being at their house was a dinner you didn't want to miss.
When you saw Will and Sarah look at each other, you saw the inexplicable love and passion they had for one another. They were each other's one and only. This was no more evident than when watching Sarah stand by Will's side day after day and hour after hour physically and emotionally exhausted yet Will's well-being always came first. And as an example of their love for each other, when Will first went into the hospital I asked him what I could do and Will in true fashion said, "Just make sure Sarah is taken care of".
Knowing Will, he's probably in Heaven telling the big guy stories right now and I can imagine, He's sitting on the edge of his chair waiting for the punch line yet not wanting the story to end. He's taught me how to live with strength, honour, grace, and kindness and if we can live by his example and touch others as he's touched all of us, then his story never really ends.
Matt
From Chris Mann (Digger)
I met Will during his time at McMaster, and we quickly became good friends. We spent a lot of really fun times together, and there are some memories that I will never forget:
Tellulah - Will's staff that he carried around during Frosh Week, until it got banned. (Hence the line in the song that we wrote "the skull has gone to Hell and Tellulah got the boot". The rubber duck's head on the end was actually a trailer hitch cover that Will stole while in a drunken stupor.
"Me and the boys, we's goin' fishin." - We were camping in Sauble beach, and Jane (Will's girlfriend at the time) was being especially annoying and clingy, refusing to let Will cut loose. They had a blow up, and Will's parting words to her were "Me and the boys, we's goin' fishin'." I'm pretty sure that was the end of that relationship.
The raccoon. The night that Will woke up around 3 in the morning after passing out on the couch at Sterling, and he woke up screaming when he saw a raccoon sitting on the end of the couch, staring at him. He actually used Tellulah to chase it back into the street.
The Christmas parties at Will's parents' house. The one that really sticks out is the time that someone made a joke about the size of Will's manhood (or lack thereof), and his mom said "I'll have you know that all of my boys are quite well endowed." It was so nice of her to come to his defense.
Will's stag. Two of my roommate's very stoned friends came to visit (not knowing what was going on or who Will was). When they learned that he was soon to be married, they offered him a joint in celebration. Then they found out he was a cop.
The nights at Crobar, playing Vampire the Masquerade in Tracy's living room (man, did Will have a great imagination), Will and Sarah's great wedding (which I stole a lot of ideas from for my own wedding), spring break in Daytona, and so much more. Will was an amazing human being, and I will miss him sorely.
It's been great, Head.
From Jamie
Dear Sarah, Raymond, Ellen, Ray and Mikey...
I've kind of put this off for a bit as there is so much to say but yet in recent days I haven't really known what to say. I am so lucky to have known Will. Will was a very special person and everyone who knew him was touched by his positive spirit and love for life. Its not very often that you meet someone like Will, he has left a lasting impression on each and every person that has come into his life.
I must say that this last year especially, has been a year of reflection for me and Will was often in my thoughts. Each time I visited Will in the hospital I always walked away in amazment. Will never complained about his situation and always kept his humor and spirit.
Will has been a great friend and he has been there for me whenever I needed him even when he was in the hospital. He had an incrdible sense of others and easly picked up on their feelings. There were even a couple of times that I visited him when I was feeling sad but pretending otherwise, and Will could always tell. He would get me talking and in a matter of minutes he was cheering me up and sharing some words of wisdom. He was very intuitive and very wise. Will genuinely cared about me and always had time for me. I will always cherish that!
To me, Will was generous with his time, his thoughts and his love for life. He was always smiling, laughing, cracking jokes and just enjoying himself and life itself. He was passionate about his work and was a teacher and role model to all of us on the road. I will miss his bright smile and the way his lips curled when he laughed, his positive energy and his courage to fight.
Will is my role model, he is my hope, my hero and my friend.
Thank you for Will! ...Jamie
From Dayle
Hello
For 5 years I rode on the RCMP Crime Prevention Bike Patrol out of the Lougheed Community Policing Office and knew Will. I still have a visual of him wearing a huge green afro wig and humming the Mazda zoom zoom commercial continually. Then I'd hear it in my head for the next 5 days. He was a quality human being, a good officer and he will be missed. My condolences and regards to all of Will's family and close friends.
From Bailey
My heart is so heavy as I try to find the words to say what I want to about Will.
I want to say thank you.
Thank you, Will, for being a great friend and confidante. You were there for me over the past several years and even while you in the hospital, in spite of your illness. I know this is true for many of his friends. It is simply how selfless Will was with everyone.
Thank you, Will, for teaching me the true meaning of courage and the true meaning of a survival mentality. Although these are qualities that many associate with police officers, Will you showed me, especially the past several months, the depth of your strength and the endurance of your will to fight in the face of all odds.
Thank you, Will, for your humour and wit. You laughed and made others laugh even when there were times that it seemed there was nothing to laugh about.
To Sarah...and to your family...To Ellen and Raymond, and to your family...I wish desperately that I could be here today. Thank you for allowing me to be an intimate part of your lives. Shawn and I are thinking of you all and you are in our hearts.
From Anick
Sarah, my thoughts and prayers are with you at this very difficult time. I consider myself one of the lucky ones to have known and worked with Will. He encompassed all the qualities of a wonderful man and he will be sorely missed. Anick
From Deni
Will Murray has been a positive influence in many people�s lives. I feel very privileged to have known Will and had him guide me with questions and thoughts through a difficult time in my life. Bless you Sarah for the love and commitment to Will. May you hold all your memories close to your heart.
Deni
From Dwayne
How can you best judge a man's mark in this world other than the sense of collective loss at his passing? For all those who had the pleasure of knowing Will, intimately or casually, the sun has shone less brightly since Friday. I had the pleasure of working with Will at Burnaby Detachment and was always amazed at his positive outlook on life and the boundless energy with which he approached his work. Will was always smiling, always willing to lend a hand, and a friend to all. He will be missed. His refusal to allow his health to keep him down, to dampen his spirit, to steal his hope, is a testament to his inner strength and is an inspiration to us all. Dylan Thomas wrote,"...Do not go gentle in to that good night. Rage, rage against the dying of the light." Will did just that, battling his illness and refusing to give up. I pray that he will now find the peace and freedom from pain that so eluded him these last years, and I am sure that his smile and gentle humour will light the halls where angels tread.
Dwayne
From Laura Colley for the ICU at RCH
On behalf of the ICU at Royal Columbian Hospital we are sorry to hear that Will succumbed to his illness. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all during this time of grief.
Laura Colley for the ICU at RCH
DEDICATION TO WILL MURRAY, from Nick
It was early spring of 2004, a discussion had transpired between myself and Brian in Brian's office regarding the recruiting persons interested in the National Security Program. Brian spoke about a person who was a well rounded member of the Burnaby RCMP Detachment. This member had gone through a recent personal illness which he had beat and was able to return to work. Brian also spoke how this member was able to work hard, had the ability to prepare judicial documents with ease and would be a benefit to the unit. Brian also said he liked to socialize and was a team player.
As time past, we at the National Security office were inundated with several high profile files which needed immediate attention. There in the forefront was the new addition to the unit being Constable Will Murray. We were all introduced to Will and he told us he preferred to be called "Will".
As time would tell, Will got down and dirty and deeply involved with many of the high profile files within the National Security program. To describe Will's dedication to learn, work and of course socialize, you can describe him as: Companionate, Caring, Professional, Accountable, Honest and always a Team Player.
I had the opportunity to work with Will while I was attached to the National Security Program in Surrey. I often remember Will and Scott coming over and discussing new methods to create judicial documents and Will would often be right on top of the new changes in case law. I had noticed that Will would be proud of the fact that he had prepared many legal document and would share his techniques with anyone in the unit. Will was a person who was dependable and would never ask the question of: "Why are we doing this?". When asked, Will would be right there assisting is getting the job done and looking to do the right thing. Of course there were social times with Will. He would often be at social gatherings building team spirit and of course drinking a few spirits as well.
Will's dedication to the job was often prevalent, however, Will began yet another challenge in his continued battle with cancer. Since the time of my departure from the National Security Program, Will was courageous in his battle with cancer and at times, I along with others, would hope that Will would recover and return.
In June of 2006, I received notification that I was about to be transferred to Calgary, Alberta. During a trip to the Calgary in July 2006, I told Scott , Brian and Mike that I would be returning with a Honorary White Cowboy Hat from Calgary and we were going to give it to Will. After the joking from Scott, Brian, Mike, Ken, Ramp, Glen and others, and they thinking it was a Cowboy Hat from the movie set of "Broke Back Mountain", I set the facts straight with the INSET crew about the Honorary White Hat from Calgary, Alberta: The story behind the White Cowboy Hat is that it is a symbol which represents the City of Calgary, the Province of Alberta and the Calgary Stampede. The White Cowboy Hat was a symbol of friendship during the 1988 Winter Olympics in Calgary, Alberta. The White Cowboy Hat was presented to persons of distinction during the 1988 Winter Olympics. The White Cowboy Hat symbolized the friendly association between the citizens of Alberta and the World.
The White Cowboy Hat given to Will represented that he was a person of distinction and further symbolized my appreciation of working with Will and his bravery during his courageous battle with cancer. I also had a small belief that the "White Hat" would be inspirational and hoped that Will would recover so that he can be back to a normal life with Sarah, his family and friends.
It is with deepest sympathy that I would send to you Sarah and the Will Murray family my condolences on behalf of myself and my family in Calgary, Alberta. I am sorry I was not able to make it to Will's memorial in Richmond, BC. I will be honored if you place the White Hat in a special place in your home in dedication for the friendship I along with others had shared with Will. It has been an honor working with a person such as Will and his memory will always be with me.
Nick
From Vardi and Shiri- Israel
We have followed Will's situation for a long time and hoped that he will be strong enough to overcome this devastating illness. Sometimes, unfortunately, the body just gives up. He was so young and beautiful, inside and out. For the short time we've known him for, we got to be quite close and we feel very fortunate to have had the chance to meet such a wonderful soul.
Our deepest condolences from all the family here in Israel, from Matan and Ronny as well.
Be strong, and have Will's memory walk you bravely through this life.
From Brian
I had the good fortune to work with Will twice in my career. I first met him when he was transferred to Burnaby uniform duties. His street sense and ability to work with all walks of life was immediately evident. He was quick to identify the element of concern to the general public and began to interact with them. He was well liked by all who worked with him. He was one of those rare persons of whom I never heard anyone say anything bad about.
While speaking with our Staffing section I saw Will's name as a person who was available for a transfer to INSET. I immediately told Staffing that I wanted Will. I was very fortunate to have someone of Will's calibre come to my team.
When Will arrived everyone recognized what a great member he was. All of the managers knew that Will was a high performer who had a bright future with the Force. Will was the go to guy for any complicated assignment. Whether it was an internet investigation or an international incident that involved treaties and legal documents Will was there to get the job done.
Will was the bravest man I knew. He never complained. I remember one day Will had dropped by to advise me of his health issues. He described his issues and in the next breath we were talking about investigations.
Will is a great loss to the RCMP. We will always miss him.
I could not possibly discuss Will without talking about Sarah. Everyone could tell that Will was head over heels in love with Sarah. It was evident not only from the pictures at his desk but the way he smiled whenever he spoke about her. It was obviously a two way street. During Will's illness I was fortunate to have the opportunity to visit Will. I saw Sarah at his side every day. I have told my three daughters about the complete devotion Sarah had for Will and held her up as an example of what it means to be in love. May God bless them both.
Remembering Will, by Scott
What can be said about Will that hasn't already been said. When I think of Will, there is one word that stands out in my mind, INSPIRING.
I first met Will when we were both going through training at Depot Training Academy in Regina in 1996. Soon after graduating, we were both posted to Burnaby Detachment. In 2004, I was once again given the pleasure to work with Will at INSET. The Counter-Terrorism business was perfect for him. Will had a passion for Counter-Terrorism work. Both he and I would always sit around and joke about the day when we would be in charge of the National Security program.
When it came to working with Will, he had an obvious knack for the ability to analyze and create complex legal documents. He was one of our "go to guys" for preparing search warrants. We would always help each other out with the editing of affidavits that we were preparing. He would often drag out his infamous red pen and make anything that I wrote look like it was bleeding to death! In fact, he probably would have edited his own Eulogy! But, Will wasn't always about work, he was one of the most positive persons I have known. His "Cool Demeanor" made him the voice of reason during complicated and high stress situations. I learned a great deal from Will. He was an outstanding police officer and was very proud to be a member of the RCMP.
Aside from his talents as a police officer, Will was a hero to me for the simple fact that there was never a day that I have known him that he complained about anything. He never griped about the lousy hand he was dealt with his illness or the obvious pain he was in or the long hours that we endured during investigations. It is for these reasons that I will always think of Will as one of the most inspirational persons I have ever known. I will miss him greatly. I will miss his duck like walk and his coolness. But most of all, I will miss that positive feeling that everyone gained through knowing Will.
Scott
From Clarissa Wallace
Please accept my heart felt condolences. I did not know Will or Sarah terribly well, but was deeply touched by them as people and by their courage and love in the midst of Will's devastating illness.
Sincerely
Clarissa Wallace MD